I hate Sex in the City
Posted on September 26th, 2007 in Rant
There aren’t many shows on TV that will actually make me get up out of my comfortable bed to find the remote and change the channel. Sex in the City is one of those shows. As soon as I hear the music cuing up the show, I HAVE to change the channel. Seeing even the first few seconds of that show makes me want to cut my ears off.
Why do I hate it so much you ask??
I don’t know really. I think it has something to do with their endless pursuit for ass, their materialistic life style, and all the men on there are hella wimpy. I am guessing this was probably the intention of the producer. I am also guessing that it has something to do with showcasing the libido of the female gender. But honestly, I really really doubt this show does anything for women. If anything, it makes it worse for them by portraying them as shallow sluts.
Please tell me I am wrong…
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I’m on the fence about the show. When I first began watching it, I loved it (but I was only 23-24 years old at the time). Now, I still like it and feel it raises some pertinent questions about sexuality, but its depiction of women and womanhood, particularly of female sexuality, actually disturbs me. I realize the show needs drama to be interesting, but these women have sex with so many men that I have trouble keeping track (and, by the way, so do they).
Carrie, for example, is supposed to be the "normal" girl, and as such her behavior seemingly sets the standard for "normal" sexual behavior. For young female viewers watching her, they see that "normal" means having sex with a married man while she is in a serious relationship with another man, sleeping with several men on the first date, sleeping with men she barely knows, and basically sleeping with any man she can find (she even has sex with a fellow patient she meets at a therapy session, and yes it is on their first date). Yet, few viewers see Carrie as a "slut" or "whore,"; in fact, most see her as the "normal" one and the type of female that men want to be in a relationship with.
P. S. I would love to know what male viewers think of Carrie.
Oh my god. I think Carrie is a total slut. She sleeps with any man who even looks her way, and yet SHE is the one who the men want? Seriously? REmember that politican guy who she sleeps with after knowing him like 3 days? Then, she proudly announces to her friends that they should vote for him ’cause she is sleeping with him! What else is new? She sleeps with everyone. So does Samantha, but at least Samantha is honest about it and doesn’t pretend to be all girl next door and sweet like Carrie. Gross. I like the show but hate how they make Carrie. I like the other 3 because they don’t seem as slutty or fake as CArrie, and if I hear one more commercial for shoes while I’m watching the show, I’m gonna scream. Can you say materialism???!!
Yeah, I agree about the Carrie remarks. As a guy, I’d never sleep with or go out with her. My girlfriend forces me to watch this show and I can’t stand Carrie’s character, and Aidden taking her back after she cheated on him is completely unrealistic. They try to make her lovable and the ultimate girl, but she isn’t. Charlotte is the closest to the ultimate girl, but even she is too whiny.
My wife loves this show, I on the other hand hate it.It makes sense in todays climate of Tolerance and "evolved thinking" that many of my old fashion ideas would be seen as Neanderthal.There are things that are great about the Sex in the City girls. They are independent and empowered I think.I just pray that my daughter doesn’t have more sex partners than she can recall, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t date men who have had serious relationships with men,to name a few things and that she will always have better than the like of these four women to help her navigate life choppy waters.
Sex and the city-just the title makes me honestly hate it. I cant begin to understand why women like it, I suppose the fact that women see a bit of themselves in each one of these 4 women. My girlfriend loves the shows main character which to me is just a relationship nagger, in every aspect, completely bored and never fully satisfied. Not only this character but the lonely nympho, the innocent hopeless romantic, and the successful/powerful woman. It’s not light hearted, it depicts how women are instinctful, shallow, blunt and cheating behind backs in a "nice" and "understanding" way. It’s disgusting and enrages me to the point where I write this critique. If I could tell one chracter one thing it would be to Carrie– relationships dont need analyzation but to just have "Necessary to" or "Desire to", showing growth and understanding love for each other. Her questioning circle her to end in despair! Funninlgly, I guess I watch because it’s her pathetic self lost in her confused mind in all the episodes.
Sex And The City is one of those shows that enforces the detail about how some American women like the idea of feminism (as a concept)- but really just want men to finance their domestic fantasies. The characters in the show are generally predators for a lifestyle and social climbing. Having girls make purchase decisions off of ‘what character is wearing what dress’ seemed to be a good way to jump start the retail economy- but the show is over so hello to girls getting out of fantasy land and paying down their credit card bills (unlike their retail hero Carrie). Well, shop til’ you drop and stay in debt! Go Sex And The City!
I have to say I hate it as well. If woman are "really" like these ladies on the show I am ever saddened for all of humanity. I may be a man, but I have sat and watched both the HBO and public television versions and they are both trash.
These women are anything but emancipated. They’re emotionally and materially dependent on wealthy (and mostly unavailable) men. They are foul mouthed and just want to shop. If I was a guy, I wouldn’t dare bring any one of those money grabbing ghetto hoochies home to mama.
The only thing funnier then men bitching about the money grubbing sluts on sex in the city is men sitting at a strip club bitching about the money grubbing sluts on sex in the city.
I must agree with everyone else who hates Sex and the City. It’s pretty much already been covered, but what ruins the whole thing for me is the generally pretentious, shallow attitudes of the main characters. If I knew any of those women in real life they would absolutely drive me up a wall. To me, you can sum up every episode as follows: "Hey ladies, let’s go shopping, then have some loveless sex with men who aren’t right for us and then go whine about it at an overpriced restaurant over an overpriced bottle of wine."
wow guys, you all need to relax… ITS JUST FICTION!!!
you should all get over it go and watch The Man show… that’ll make you all feel a bit more comfortable and a bit less threatened.
I totally agree. I have not watched it at all because it’s terrible. The writing could be brilliant and I would still not watch it just because of what it depicts. How about a show on "Purity in the City." Hmmm. Not as glamorous, but I’d probably watch it. I love Rob’s summation of it: "Hey ladies, let’s go shopping, then have some loveless sex with men who aren’t right for us and then go whine about it at an overpriced restaurant over an overpriced bottle of wine."
Anyone who feels backwards for hating this show, don’t. Theyre the freaks not us. The fact that most people find these women disgusting is not evidence of being backwards. I would’nt watch the Man Show or these whores. Is this crap supposed to be cool?
it must be the worst show in the history of time,
its not appealing at all,
what is wrong with producers of tv shows nowadays, seriously, what a lot of bollocks
and i quote family guy for my final point…. ’so… its a show ab out 3 hookers and thier mom?’
OH MY GOD I HATE SEX AND THE CITY MORE THAN YOU DO
ALL OF MY FRIENDS LOVE IT
I CAN’T STAND IT
I DESPISE IT SO MUCH THAT I TRY TO FIND OTHER PEOPLE WHO HATE IT TOO SO I CAN BITCH ABOUT HOW MUCH THAT F***ING SHOW SUCKS!!
and i’m female
and i don’t understand why other females ADORE that show! and now a movie? are you kidding me? a movie about a few douchebags??
F$%@!
I agree. This show is trash. The few women I know who watch it try to defend it and say it is about the struggle to find a " good" or "interesting" or "worthy" man in today’s world. Then the characters find one. Then, they dump him because of one insignificant detail. That pretty much sums up every episode of Sex and the City I was forced to watch.
No. We don’t need to calm down. Sex in the City is bad for society. Its negative effects, if limited to the shallowness of the four fictional characters, would be easy enough to ignore, but unfortunately for the human race, it’s a pop culture phenomenon now. Mothers are watching this filth with their twelve-year-old daughters, who are growing up thinking that this is decent way to conduct yourself and buying into the myth that sex has no social or moral consequences. Now, hey, I’m no prude, and I’m far from right-wing—I’m not suggesting abstinence-only sex education and waiting until marriage. Virtually no one does that anymore. But not everyone hops into the sack with practically everyone they meet.
Hee-hee-hee. Men have small penises! Hee-hee-hee! Shopping! Shoes! Fashion! Hee-hee-hee! Aren’t we liberated? Let’s go to an expensive restaurant and eat salad and drink pricey wine while reducing our "relationships" to discussions on how inadequate mens penises are - too short, too thin, unsatisfying. Hee-hee-hee! Big penis is too limp and he’s an asshole. Plus he’s not tall enough. Why can’t a man with a nice big thick penis with lots of money just love me for who I am? And by love I mean give me credit cards with unlimited spending and support my love of intellectual pursuits such as shoes and being thin. And what pigs men are for mentioning breasts!
Seriously, I wonder what kind of "men" these women would get if they were real people? Once they hit fify and measure the number of sex partners by how many miles of penis have been inside them, what’s left?
I feel seriously lucky for not having women like these in my life. They must all have canyons for vaginas. Bleh.
I think lots of women like this show because it lets them vicariously make fun of penises and the inadequacies of men in general while glorifying shoes, shopping, being thin, etc. Why women desire *that* crap though is beyond me…
I detest that show.
a few facts: candace bushnell was the original slut in the city. the show was based on her weekly column in the observer about her and her gaggle of yenta girlfriends’ exploits in skankdom. btw, the real "mr.big" was rumored to be former ny republican senator alphonse d’amato.
these women represent everything that’s wrong with society at this point; shallow, materialistic, social-climbing, easy and NEUROTIC. and please spare us all the "empowerment" nonsense. the fact is, these four women DEFINED themselves by men. keep in mind, that as "smart, complex and modern" a role model for women as these whores are supposed to be the only excuse they could come up with to put them on the big screen is a WEDDING.
gee, how feminist.
"Sex in the city" is just harmless escapism, isn’t it? See below how one "empowered" 14 year old chose to model her life. She’s now grown up and a Mormon, but still secretly pines for the old days. This is what our children are watching and emulating. At least Brittany Spears was only innuendo. HA! Right! Our young girls actually think "Sex and the City" is the way to go! It enrages me that mothers and daughters watch this shit together and collectively objectify men with their knowing looks and juvenile smirks:
‘Sex and the City’ Fiend: Show Turned Me Into Samantha
For Some, ‘Sex and the City’ Is Both Entertainment and Education
By SHEILA MARIKAR
May 21, 2008 —
You can only watch Samantha Jones bed so many gorgeous guys before wondering if 4-inch heels and sky-high confidence would allow you to do the same.
At least that’s what happened to "Lisa" (not her real name). She got hooked on "Sex and the City" when she was a 14-year-old growing up on Long Island, N.Y. It was the same year she lost her virginity. She soon graduated to ordering cosmopolitans at bars she snuck into and cheating on her boyfriend with up to seven other guys — in one week.
"When you’re that age you try to emulate people on TV. Carrie smoked, so I smoked, Samantha looked at hooking up with random people as not a big deal, so that’s what I did too," said Lisa, now 22. "It wasn’t ‘Sex and the City’s’ fault. I love the show, but I think it made it a little easier to justify my behavior."
It’s a twisted version of monkey see, monkey do. For some 20-something women, "Sex and the City," which hits theaters in feature film form May 30, served as Dating 101 — lessons in how to hook up, go out and live the fabulous lives of Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker), Samantha (Kim Cattrall), Charlotte (Kristin Davis) and Miranda (Cynthia Nixon), no strings attached.
Lisa remembers re-enacting one particular Samantha scene in her own life: Season 3, episode 39, in which the bachelorette-for-life scrunches her face up at her latest suitor and tells him she doesn’t like the way his semen tastes.
"That was something that happened to me. I used her exact words: ‘You have funky spunk,’" she said. "I knew from watching the show that it had to do with something he was eating," so she took a cue from the script and took an ax to a certain item in his diet.
To be clear: "Sex and the City" can’t be blamed for creating a generation of sluts. No one’s attempted to quantify how the landmark HBO series changed the way people date and hook up, and both the network and series executive producer/movie producer Michael Patrick King declined to comment for this story on how they believe the show affected women.
But according to psychiatrists, relationship experts and fans, "Sex and the City" changed the way women view hooking up, if not their hooking up habits.
"It did have some impact talking about affairs, vibrators, etc.," said Pepper Schwartz, a University of Washington sociology professor and relationship expert for Perfectmatch.com. "If it’s not permission giving, it at least demystifies and normalizes what goes on in women’s lives in a more than snickering way."
That’s what Angela Hwang, 24, found when she started watching the show in cable syndication, after it went off HBO. She and her girlfriends routinely compare their experiences to "Sex and the City" episodes.
"My girlfriends and I, every single guy we’ve been with we can relate to one of the guys on the show," she said. "We’ve all had Samantha moments. We’ll say, ‘Remember the guy I saw last week? He was exactly like the guy in episode 15.’"
Hwang took away more than just bedroom tips.
"You can have a successful career and girlfriends without needing a guy by your side. You don’t need guys as long as you’ve got your girlfriends!"
"With teenagers and young adults, there’s a certain degree of role modeling that goes on. There’s a certain ‘if it’s done on the screen then it’s OK, it’s normal,’"Copyright © 2008 ABC News Internet Ventures
I really do not consider "Sex and the city" as being harmless escapism.
The series perfectly reflects the thinking of a big part of our society.
What are these women doing? Shallow speeches about men and sex, is that so extraordinary, shouldn’t anyone be able to openly talk about sexual desires and practics?
The show tells young women that being shallow materialist and slutty is just fine, you never hear these girls in the series talking about spirituality or finding their hapiness in other things than guys, shoes or shopping.
The message is; as long as you behave this way you are ok with todays society, no need to think critically about what’s going on in the world or asking questions that might be disturbing.
Some people plead these "poor" terrorized muslim women that have to wear the Burka and are not allowed outside the house without being accompanied by a man. Believe me, I was living in Egypt for quite a while and many of these women like what they have to do, they have their place and are happy with it.Do not get me wrong here, I think anyone should be allowed to freely decide what he or she wants to do.
But what is our society telling women?
According to so many TV-crap-shows, you have to make career while raising several children, look good at all times and stay good looking until the end of your days by any means, plastic surgery is fine and by getting your tits done you are gonna become a different being inside.
Is that our so called emancipation? I do not think so.
I hate it above most series, imo its just really bad acting and its not fun whatsoever. Its just shallow
This show actually makes me hate all New Yorkers-it even makes New York seem incredibly claustrophobic and depressing. Yet I watch the show and sometimes like it at the same time. I think however that it’s responsible for making me never ever want to date. And Charlotte who is supposed to be the prim and proper minister’s daughter seems like a ho bag too, as much as I love her classic style. All in all the show is good in the sense that it makes you care about the characters as sad as their lives are. And in a way, unintentionally I think it shows the tragedy of the sexual revolution. Keep in mind the writers are gay men, and ultimately the characters are too. Just my very very mixed emotions on the show. And while I like the opening music and everything, I never watch SATC repeats, flip them off as fast as I can when they come on, as my romanticism just can’t take any more floggings.
Stefan, what the hell is your deal? How many times exactly did you say penis? I think your more obssessed with penises than the the show. You’re creeping me out with your weird projections and need to get a life!
Everyone who is posting here about how they hate the show should be nominated for a nobel prize. I’ve only seen it a few times because of gf’s and stuff but come on now. How pathetic do you really need to be to love a show like this? And EVERY girl loves it! Why? I know exactly why. Girls love this show because it basically states that a girl can sleep around with whoever she wants and its no longer considered being a slut. I’m so sick of these woman power movies.. WE get it alright! Women are equal. Why is that whenever a minority becomes equal like they wanted they need to whine and act like they’re better because they had to "fight" to be equal. I see everyone as equal. Black, white, woman or man we’re all equal with different strengths. So while you sit at home and watch a show that makes you feel more clever than men are, remember, You’re no worse than men but that also means you’re no better! The only thing that could make a woman lesser than a man would be being obsessed with such a self centered, materialistic, "we are woman hear us roar" type show. Gross!