Why get married?

I wanted to write this for a long time now, but never found the time, so here it is. What is the point of getting married?

Well to be honest, as a male, when we decided to get married, I didn’t really think much of it. I mean, I already love my wife, and I wouldn’t spend my life with anyone else except her, so why go through the hassle of a wedding ceremony?

I’ve always thought of the whole wedding-scam as big ol’ party for the girls. A chance for her to wear a fancy dress and get treated like a princess.

I say “scam” because if you’ve seen how big the wedding industry is, you’ll realized just how organized and profitable the wedding-cartel is. They got magazines, warehouse stores, online shops, consultants, high priced ventures, etc… etc… etc…

But all is not bad. After going through the cumbersome wedding planning process, arguing with my mother, depleting my life’s savings, daily fights with my fiancee (now wife), and nearly deciding that the best option is to run to a Vegas chapel and get it over with it, I’ve learned that the whole point of getting married is to test your endurance and commitment to one another.

There is nothing like spending 2-3 months worth of your paycheck to buy a useless shiny rock to make you think twice about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Mine is worth every penny. [obligatory]

But that sacrifice is nothing compared to having to decide between what your mother wants, and what your future wife wants.

From my own experience, and the experience of several men I’ve talked to, this is one of those defining choices you have to make in life. You have to decide wether to listen to your mother, or standup for your wife. Because for some gosh dang reason, they will be at odds with each other, even if they are normally fine and friendly.

Throw in the religion factor, like I had to endure, and you’ve got yourself a PARTTTAY!!!

Anyways. I survived. Its just a right of passage I guess. It’s a transition from being a momma’s boy, to a man. A man who know that from now on, his wife, and future children, will be his first priority.

Nowadays I laugh whenever I see a guy reach that moment and screams

“I DON’T CARE WHO COMES TO MY WEDDING, IT’S OUR WEDDING AND I’LL DO WHATEVER I WANT”.

Maybe the reason why America has such a high divorce rate is because a lot of people use wedding planners instead of planning their own wedding? It’s an opportunity for you to learn about your partner, and decide if you’ve made a mistake. You wouldn’t want to miss out on that…

  • Nice post Vihn. Having kids provides the same opportunity of self learning and improvement. Except that it includes your spouse, in-laws, religion, money and every damn fool on the planet with an opinion.

  • Douglee333

    Great piece here Vinh…btw you’re no longer a boy -vinhman